Essay 2 Narrative_ True Love_ .docx

Anthony Stanley

Instructor Skylar Couch

Eng 160-22

22 September 2022

Essay 2 Narrative: True Love? 

What does it mean to have a significant other? To be in love? It means something different for all of us. Especially when it’s your first time falling in love so you don’t know the feeling yet. For me, I found love right here at New Paltz and I didn’t even know it. Love is something we all take to a different level of meaning as well as a different type of standard. For some love is slow, takes time, and is a long trusting process, for others,  love is fast and flows very naturally. This is the type of love I experienced with my girlfriend, also known as, “Love at first sight”. Now, some outsiders might say you’re not experiencing true love but to them I say, “You don’t know how we are alone together”. Even though it’s soon to be a month we’ve been together, a lot has happened that has made me feel like I’ve experienced some type of love even if it’s not “true love”. But when I’m with my girlfriend, I get to experience sentimental values, peace, time, and loyalty .

We all have sentimental values that we hold closely to our hearts and some that in others we can share the same value with them. In some instances, and certain situations you or the other party bring sentimental values to present to the other that they then hold to them. In both of these cases, both of these situations became true in the course of a month. To me personally the most important sentimental value is origami, more specifically the origami my girlfriend makes for me and I keep. She makes these out of candy wrappers and even sticks and it’s one of the little things I hold dear to me. Another little sentimental value would be flowers that we give to each other to put in each other’s hair, and I keep as many as I can. We also have a playlist we play in my airpods as we walk around town even non physical objects hold even greater sentimental value such as music. It’s the little things in life that we hold such great sentimental value to, from music to nature to art, we hold these close to our heart and connect to people more through these things.

There are all types of relationships, and all of them have the same common theme, they’re not all perfect. People have their good days and bad days but there’s another common theme that at the end of the day you’re still in a relationship and you’re in it together. There’s a sense of peace and tranquility. Peace, at least for me, is a big recurring theme in my relationship, one that I haven’t felt before from another person or thing. She calms me down, and makes me feel safe to express myself and who I am and it brings a very big sense of tranquility to my persona. The peace in a relationship doesn’t always come naturally though, sometimes it takes time to do this which is the next important thing to love.

As with anything in life, especially love,  time is the most valuable resource we each have, and we each can decide how we want to use our time. In my relationship both me and my girlfriend make it important to give our free time to each other very willingly and eagerly so we can be with one another. Whether it be grabbing a bite to eat together, seeing movies, even the same one more than once, stargazing, dancing in the rain, carving pumpkins, and much more, the time we give to each other is very valued down to the second. When you’re with someone you’re in love with, the only worry time has is the time you have to leave each other’s arms and/or company. Even in a month’s time span, we have spent a lot of time together enjoying every second with one another, learning new things about each other, expressing our feelings and how we feel about each other and certain topics. Although time is important over all of these, there’s another important word that beats all the others, loyalty.

Loyalty in my personal opinion is the most important aspect of a romantic relationship. Knowing you are each other’s and no one else’s builds trust. Although loyalty is the most important out of all these factors, loyalty wouldn’t be as important without all these factors. Sentimental values that bring you closer making you fall in love more, peace and tranquility bringing you a sense of safety and wellbeing also bringing you closer together, and time, as time goes on the closer you become, the more experiences you share, the more life you live together. All of these factors make loyalty such a strong word in a relationship it brings you closer so you know the other can’t imagine a life without you in it. All of these factors combined into one made the special event of the night of September 6th possible, the night me and my girlfriend started dating.

Over the course of a month, this past month to be more specific, all of these factors helped make such a strong healthy relationship that others in our position don/t have. Whether it’s true love or not, the relationship aspects of having sentimental values, peace and tranquility, time, and most importantly loyalty, led to a very strong nurturing relationship with a very strong bond that I feel with my girlfriend.